The contractor Dad used for this project didn't pay for any of the supplies and labor we gave money for him to do. He pocketed the funds for himself. Our house, which in his contract, was supposed to be started in October and finished by the end of November is so incomplete, only a very small space, smaller than the orginal space, to live in. The rest of it is all torn up. He has 90% of the money, and only got 20% of the work done. He has yet to provide any receipts. Because we refused (and so did the bank) to give him any more money till the work he was supposed to already have done is completed, he told the workers never to go back. My parents have exhausted all other alternatives and there just no way to resolve this now without a lawsuit.

The following posts are all related to this project...including the one where the project mngr has terminal cancer, and has quit. Another person working on our house died from a heart attack. One got his life threatened by another worker and has disappeared. Now the person who did the threatening is after us too.
See http://www.christian-forum.net/index.php?showtopic=7926

http://www.christian-forum.net/index.php?showtopic=9482

http://www.christian-forum.net/index.php?showtopic=7926

http://www.christian-forum.net/index.php?showtopic=9539

Oh, boy, what a mess! I've been in such a mess myself. Boy, you must mean a great threat to Satan!

I guess a lawsuit is the best thing. But be careful in chosing lawyers. If one starts making EXCUSES and shows doubt whether you are going to win, LEAVE!!

Get another one. Just say "thank you"; don't feel sorry for him; just tell yourself you will pray for him (it usually helps)

Don't take one that wants to be paid BY THE HOUR. Sometimes, they cheat and pretend they worked when they did not just to collect the money. Just : it will be so much IF you win, so much if you loose.

Please LORD, I lift up Flyingsquirrel to you and ask you that you would guide her to a HONEST lawyer, that the lawsuit would be as SHORT as possible with the LEAST fees incurred. Guide her lawyer, anoint him (or her) to say the right thing at the right time; to go straight to the core and find where she can get the PROOF she needs so that Flyingsquirrel will have either her money back or that the job will be completed; if the job has to be completed, I ask that the guy be given a LIMITED time to comply and that he will have no choice but complying, or he would be in trouble. I pray that the contractor gets the message and straightens up his act; show him that if he does, he will be blessed, that he has nothing to lose but everything to win. (I lift up the contractor as well).

This should be a clear WINNING lawsuit since there is no doubt the contractor is at fault.

LORD, I also lift up the judge who will be ruling the case, so that Flyingsquirrel has FAVOR with him; bless this judge, LORD.

Finally, I pray that you, LORD, would SAVE each and every person that is involved in that case who are not saved. Bless them, LORD, physically, spiritually, and financially.

Bless Flyingsquirrel as well and give her HOPE, LORD, and PEACE, and PATIENCE, and FAITH as well that everything is going to be alright.

Thank you, LORD!
In Jesus' name, I pray...

thank you both for your prayers...

'Welcome!

I realise that this is a prayer request forum and not an advice request forum. Its typical of humans. We want quick fixes not painful solutions.

I read your linked posts as well. What a mess. I have some questions for you. How old are you? Why are you supporting your parents? You are not responsible for your parents debts. Give yourself a break and get as far away from this situation as you can. Your father has made his bed and must be made to lie in it. I recommend that you distance yourself from your father for a while and concentrate on building up your own resources. This will be hard on your Mum in the short term, but after you are established then you will be able to look after her whereas now, you are constantly exhausted trying to bale out a boat with big holes in it. Be prepared for a lot of emotional blackmail about abandoning the family etc. This is typical of a father who is taking from those around him.

Do you go to church? This is essential. The church is our true family. Our brothers, sisters, mothers and fathers. They give to us and encourage us whereas our bloodline parents, especially those who are worldly are often graspers and takers. Sometimes it is a violent reality check as we mature, to learn that our parents are not giving caring loving individuals as we would like to imagine them, but are selfish, greedy and taking from those around them. I'm not specifically saying this of your parents although your posts indicate to me that they are putting their own welfare above yours.

Learn from Christ with regard to his bloodline family.
Mark 3:31 There came then his brethren and his mother, and, standing without, sent unto him, calling him. 32 And the multitude sat about him, and they said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren without seek for thee. 33 And he answered them, saying, Who is my mother, or my brethren? 34 And he looked round about on them which sat about him, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren! 35 For whosoever shall do the will of God, the same is my brother, and my sister, and mother.

And also
Matthew 19:29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.

Does this mean we dishonour and disrespect our parents? No of course not. It is talking about honouring and respecting God and his people above our own parents. Having done that, and having attained a position of spiritual and physical strength from God and the church we are then able to better serve our parents.

Am I saying that we abandon our aging parents? No certainly not. If they are infirm and unable to work. Let them come and stay with you in YOUR house where you are in charge of the decisions of the household. The deliniation then becomes clear. YOU left home. They LEFT their home and came to live with you in YOUR home. Giving to our parents as we are able to pay for their necessities is altogether different to giving money because of emotional blackmail to pay for extravagances and foolishness. I'm sorry squirrel, but it was irresponsible of your father to hand over 90% of the money when only 20% of the work was done. It was foolish of your father to undertake the extension without the support of his wife.

Prayers are not for pulling us out of the fire of stupidity. Nor should the money and strenuous efforts of our children be used for such a purpose.

Can I also say now that I am on a roll that this is also a case study for husbands to respect their wives intuition. Of course some women are just neurotic about everything, but most women have a very keen intuition or gut feel about things, which men just don't have. For the peace of the marriage and to avert disaster I advise men to make full use of this second sight of their wives when making decisions. Which is not to say that we always listen to this and abandon our leadership responsibilities and all rational thought, but what I mean is to show respect for this female intuition and consider it weightily along with all the other factors before making a decision.

I will pray for you squirrel if you decide to break those parental bonds and strike out on your own. Drastic problems require drastic change. If you don't make this break, your parents will drag you down into their mire. Leave and allow the Lord to lift you up so that at a later stage you may be a support and refuge for those you love whether they be a future wife or children, or your aging parents.

...Father in Heaven,

Please help us to be removed from those things that no longer
accomplish your will...whatever it has been...let us not linger in
the company of unbelief and move us to the solid rock of your
promise for our future...

May we hold on to you, for there is no other...help us get the other
foot over into the camp of holiness for our heart is already there.

Bless my brothers and sisters, your children with the means to
get free, be free...by your Holy Spirit and the courage you breathe
into our lives by your Word.

Thank you, Jesus, for it has already been done.

Amen,
signet

excubitor,

I have never been involved financially in any of this mess. My name is not on any of the paperwork. I use 'we' because the situation affects all of us because my parents say they plan to leave the cabin as an inheritance to me someday. We all use the cabin. I was warned in a dream that Dad's decison would leave us all in proverty because Dad would loose everything, and depend on me on support and I don't make that much. I made some urgent prayers and that outcome was changed in the dreams. This time the dreams were all indicating that there will terrible conflict and struggle, but there will be justice and restoration. I had told Dad I felt like things needed to be left where they are and not start this project. He still hasn't found a permanent job and he's now paying a mortgage on a place that is almost a $1000 a month! Now Dad lives with me in my appartment so he can work in the city ( and goes home on the weekends) without having to commute so far and he pays half the rent. Mom has asked me to let Dad out of paying half the rent and to go back to paying the full rent myself before Dad moved in with me so they can free up more funds for the mortgage. I asked Dad about it but so far, he continues to pay half the rent. That is good on his part. He is still looking for a job ( his temp job has been keeping him busy, and it has been extended several months). I have supported them in part, financially, when Dad went several months without a job, in fact, I quit my job to help them and finally, enough was enough, I got a bad job for a while, and prayed for a better one and GOD answered my prayers and everything I do prospers. I've been praying for Dad to get a good job, but he hasn't found anything permanent for over a year in spite of lots of interviews. I feel like I should give them at least a little support like prayer and referring them to a reputatable attorney and of course if work needs done at the house like cleaning gutters, cutting trees, mowing the lawn, I enjoy helping. I'm grateful for their support when I needed it and I hope that I can at least give them a little help, but I am not going to court with them and I'm not signing anything. Thank you for your post. I appreciate your insight and advice and prayerful support.

Update: I just learned that the complaints we filed with the state atty general and better business bureau got back to the contractor, and the work is proceeding without any more money.


Jimmy, the project manger, who quit, and has terminal cancer, is in jail for driving on a revoked license.



Thank you so much for your prayers and support! This is still in progress...