Ok, another dream. This one is very strange indeed.
I dream I was at a furneral home and a service was going on. My childern and I were in attendance. I kept thinking it was one person in the coffin but when we walk by it was a distance cousin and friend of mine. The coffin appeared to be red in color. He was laid out and I walk by and started thinking to myself about how many problem this person has had with his childern.
I had not really thought about him in around ten years. I felt so sad for him and all he had been going through.

A little history on this person.
He and his wife lived next door to me for around 20 years and we had gone to school together. He was an only child and very spoiled! He married and he and his wife had four childern around the same age as my childern and we all attended the same church. We all hung around together every day and night with each other.
One child comminted sucide at the age of 19. One child started having seizures at the age of 27 and now has to live at home with them. The remaining child married some one of a differene race and that upset them alot. NOw they are just fine with it however they wasnt at the time.

I dont know if the back ground helps or not. They are christains.
I only get dreams every couple of months that I know I need the understanding and this is one because at the end of the dream I was told, here it is now know what it is and understand.
Thank all of you for helping me with my dreams.
Kim

I don't know if this will help - but we'll see where it goes. IF the Lord wants me to do this - it will happen - I've 'sourced' some basics from an online dictionary....so I'm kind of editing as I go.

Coffin - Obvious symbol of death. Seeing a friend in a coffin symbolizes change. Coffins also can be a sign of weakness and a lack of vitality. Coffin dreams should not be interpreted as precognitive.


Red

Symbol of anger and passion in dreams. If the color red features prominently in your dream, ask yourself if something has been causing you to “see red” (get angry) recently. If an object or person in your dream is red, consider that anger is associated with that object or person. Red also can be a sign of vitality, passion and romance.

Funeral

Attendance at a funeral indicates you are witnessing change or transition in your relationship with the deceased. Also, especially in seniors, may refer literally to fears of death or concerns about proper burial rites. Like death, can also be a positive symbol indicating growth and rebirth.


So I suppose it could refer that YOU are undergoing change, or maybe it's your subconscious working out the change in your friend. Their acceptance of things that in the past angered or upset them - because with change - either negative or positive, there is always some sort of growth happening, an understanding of different ideas - and if it's positive change, there's acceptance that somethings are just meant to be.

Too many times people - Christians in particular - get caught up in legalisms, or 'racisms' that they're not even aware they have until something occurs to trigger thought on that particular 'ism'. It takes a lot of work on the person to defeat their ISM-ness - and accept things. It's as if - black only goes with black, and yellow only goes with yellow - and pink only goes with pink. Roses must be only with their own in an expensive bouquet...don't put a 'cheaper' flower with them because it takes away from the rose. What God wants for people - couples in love and marriage, is for them to compliment each other. Even a posy of beautiful looking carnations or roses are pretty darned awful if they're put together with that stinky weedy stuff ( can't remember what it's called). But if put with a fern or baby's breath, the beauty of each flower is magnified. green and red in nature go hand in hand - but as people - unless it's christmas or a tartan - putting those two colours together can be seen as - well - bad taste or yucky. If it's purple and orange together - seen again in flowers - people get the idea that you're pretty outrageous. Thankfully though, marriages of mixed race are becoming more common and more accepted. But if it's never occurred before in a long family line - it would come as a shock to some. Maybe your friends realised that they've lost one child, another is going to have a disability for the rest of their life, however mild or extreme, so their remaining healthy, alive child should deserve all the happiness they can find.

With death the inevitable question is why? And I think sometimes God allows yucky things to happen to good people, or people who seem to be good to get them to look into their hearts and learn something about themselves. With suicide - parents and friends go on the whole guilt trip thing - I should have seen it coming etc etc.....which is a very self-absorbed, selfish attitude. Because the suicide isn't or wasn't about them. It was about the person who died. So in finally accepting what happened, happened....they are not only beginning a healing process, but beginning to also see a different kind of world. And if people are being truthful with themselves, then they will see a new them and maybe find that their heart wasn't what it should have been.

That's about it from me....I GTG - baby is grizzling.

Thank you and I will use it wisely. I think I have be angry alittle. We have a little boy staying with us and he tells me what has happen to him from the hands of his father. I ache for this child and inside I am angry.
Kim