Hi everyone!
I posted re: fears and phobias earlier this week:
http://www.christian-forum.net/index.php?showtopic=4857&st=0
And a few days later had this dream, which was interpreted for me:
http://www.christian-forum.net/index.php?showtopic=4889&st=0
And last night I had a phone consultation with Dr. Val, Pamela's brother in law that counsels using holistic/Christian principles. We delved into my one episode of getting sick on the couch when I was 5 and then into the fact that I was abandoned as a child (my mother left my sister and I with my dad when I was 2, my sis was 1 ... she was too young to take care of us)... my grandmother and grandfather raised me until I was 5 and then my father remarried. My stepmother didn't care much for me and this brings me to my traumatic experience of feeling that I was 'Bad' for throwing up on the couch and her reaction to me was negative, that I was a bother and too much trouble, that I should have been able to control myself. I made a pact that I would never be 'bad' again and have not thrown up to this day (40 years later). My grandparents were germ fanatics, and that was another issue in my life, they doted on me and hovered, sterilized our eating utensils, etc. ... so I always learned that sick was 'bad'.
Anyway, last night, after an hour session of therapy with Dr. Val, I was able to make peace with my mother and my grandparents by imagining them as I would have them treat me in those situations when I was ill. It was a breakthrough for me!!
Now, to come to the dream....
I dreamed that my two sons were with me and we pulled up to this house which reminded me very much of my grandparents house (they had two stone pillars on each side of the house and stairs leading to the front porch). In the dream the yard was a mess, there were weeds everywhere, the bushes were overgrown, very unkempt. There were white sheets thrown over these stone pillars and I peeked underneath the sheets and could see it was clean underneath. The sheets appeared to be on the porch too and inside the house on all the furniture. I met someone at the door, a man, who told me to come inside and have a look around. I did not know this person but I had the thought that I would be renting/buying this house from him. He told me that usually he didn't have the electricity turned on, but would put it on so we could see the place. I noticed that there were many rooms but there was a staircase far away from the bedrooms that had many steps and at the top all there was, was a desk with a laptop on top. I walked down the many stairs and remember seeing off to the side a raised platform (another room like a split level) and a playpen in the corner with a tiny infant wrapped in a white blanket in the very center of the playpen. There was nobody around which I thought was odd. The child was not crying but was not being taken care of either. The other person that came up in the dream was a babysitter that I trusted years ago to watch my daughter (who is 20 now, but she was about 2-3 when I left her with this woman during the day).
The Lord gave me the interpretation of this dream:
I had my boys with me because I want them to be with me when I go through this battle to leave the phobia behind.
The clean white sheets represent a germ free environment, the fact they were all over the house would be in accordance with the way my grandparents ruled their house... germ free. The unkempt outside represented the germy, weedy world where they did not venture out much. It also represents my garden of fears that need to be weeded out one by one, my exposure list.
The electricity being off... represented being in the dark.. my grandparents were in the dark about my phobia as well as faith wise. They were Roman Catholics but did not walk the walk of faith. They feared everything.
The significance of the desk way high up the ladder I interpreted to be my being taken to a higher level through my internet friends and the network of people I am meeting here that have helped me in the last few weeks.
The baby was me in the playpen, wrapped in a white blanket (sterile, germ free) even covering my face (feeling like I am being smothered by the fears, by my grandparents' constant worries)... and surrounded by my 'safety net' of ocd rituals that make me feel better. Even though someone was there, I still felt alone and that worrying about me didn't mean anyone was caring about me.
The babysitter was my one 'trusted' person that I could count on with my child when she was little.
Dr. Val helped me see my vulnerability and inability to trust anyone with the care of my children when they are sick or outside of my sight, as I never had anyone truly care about me when I was sick, at school, or anywhere. I didn't have just one trusted person I could count on. I am starting to understand more about myself through the imagery and dreams. My fear of throwing up is more a fear of embarrassment and feeling like there will be nobody there to help me if I do get sick. I am continuing to work on these thoughts and will post praise reports as I conquer each step.
I thank you all here for listening and having faith in me to be able to get through this wilderness. The house in my dream is something I am CLAIMING and TAKING OVER... I need to get things right in my house from now on... it was such a powerful dream to me that I just had to share it.
The LORD IS SOO GOOD and to HIM BE ALL THE PRAISE AND GLORY.
I invite any comments or thoughts anyone has about this :-)
Love you all!